Self Care can be the easiest thing, while most of the time it is not.
Self-care can be very easy, but that only comes when you have done it for sometime. Even then, you can still hit a rough patch practicing it. We know what is needed to be healthy and happy. We read how to do it and how to get through it. The easiest part is knowing in the first place why we have to do it. But when the time comes to take care of ourselves it just becomes hard. Sometimes we can’t can’t get out of bed, look at ourselves in the mirror or even want to go out.
My self care is attached to my anxiety and depression. The anxiety can be triggered by anything my brain racks up. Depression kicks in when I’m mostly alone in deep thoughts. Taking care of myself has been my main priority this year. I used to spend all my time on others and their problems then my own. All my stress would come right when I notice that my needs are not met. Bringing my self esteem down and my anxiety up.
self-care is not expensive meals and care packages, it is making the effort in building the best me that I can.
Self doubt and failure; two things that can bring me down when I’m on my way to my best self. Those two can make self care the hardest. I can go on with new ideas to pursue but then I begin to doubt myself. Once I start doubting myself that’s when I fall into a sad pit. That brings me back into hiding or throwing the idea away. The second one failure happens when I create goals or projects and they don’t finish on time. I know I don’t purposely set myself up for failure. But I know if I set the expectation to get it done and I fail, then I feel like a failure.
But what makes it hard?
Self-care takes work, HARD WORK. You can create goals, make plans and activities to make you feel better. Yet it won’t work if you don’t take the time and effort to do them. If you create a goal, go and achieve it. When you tell yourself motivational quotes to remember and believe, you have to believe them! But sometimes there are moments where you just don’t want to do it, but in the end you’ll feel better.
Baby steps is what will get you through it. To put yourself in a better place is always best to start small. When I have my moments I check myself and look at how I can bounce back. Whether its playing my go to music or just clearning my head. But that’s the beginning of getting back to where I need to be. Overall I do know that when things get tough that’s when my best self pulls through.