Self-care can be the easiest thing, while most of the time it is not.

Self Care can be the easiest thing, while most of the time it is not.

Self-care can be very easy, but that only comes when you have done it for sometime. Even then, you can still hit a rough patch practicing it. We know what is needed to be healthy and happy. We read how to do it and how to get through it. The easiest part is knowing in the first place why we have to do it. But when the time comes to take care of ourselves it just becomes hard. Sometimes we can’t can’t get out of bed, look at ourselves in the mirror or even want to go out.

My self care is attached to my anxiety and depression. The anxiety can be triggered by anything my brain racks up. Depression kicks in when I’m mostly alone in deep thoughts. Taking care of myself has been my main priority this year. I used to spend all my time on others and their problems then my own. All my stress would come right when I notice that my needs are not met. Bringing my self esteem down and my anxiety up.

self-care is not expensive meals and care packages, it is making the effort in building the best me that I can.

Self doubt and failure; two things that can bring me down when I’m on my way to my best self. Those two can make self care the hardest. I can go on with new ideas to pursue but then I begin to doubt myself. Once I start doubting myself that’s when I fall into a sad pit. That brings me back into hiding or throwing the idea away. The second one failure happens when I create goals or projects and they don’t finish on time. I know I don’t purposely set myself up for failure. But I know if I set the expectation to get it done and I fail, then I feel like a failure.


But what makes it hard?

Self-care takes work, HARD WORK. You can create goals, make plans and activities to make you feel better. Yet it won’t work if you don’t take the time and effort to do them. If you create a goal, go and achieve it. When you tell yourself motivational quotes to remember and believe, you have to believe them! But sometimes there are moments where you just don’t want to do it, but in the end you’ll feel better.

Baby steps is what will get you through it. To put yourself in a better place is always best to start small. When I have my moments I check myself and look at how I can bounce back. Whether its playing my go to music or just clearning my head. But that’s the beginning of getting back to where I need to be. Overall I do know that when things get tough that’s when my best self pulls through.

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  1. I too have made a goal to take more time for self care. As women we tend to give to everyone else and neglect ourselves. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Self care is definitely important. I like to mediate or use crystals for healing my mind and soul. Lovely article, your honesty is refreshing! Take care!

  3. Once we unbury ourselves from the latest snowfall, our entire family is joining a gym. We got stuck in a rut, and it’s time we started taking care of ourselves or the next thing you know, spring will actual come and we’ll be too lazy to do anything.

  4. I love how you have identified that the journey towards self care all starts from taking a small step in the right direction. I can really relate to this post as I myself is someone that has just recently began my journey towards self-acceptance. Good luck on your journey girl!

    Bukola Veronica,

  5. I have my moments sometimes too where I doubt myself. But as long as you believe in yourself and think positive, you’ll push through.

  6. Yes, sometimes self care is taking a nap or even unplugging from social media. I like your transparency in this post as well as the food for thought you give. We can’t pour from an empty cup.

  7. So true! This is such a great post. Self-care can be different depending on the day…some days it’s exercising & eating right and others it’s watching Netflix in your PJS – that is spot on!

  8. Great post! I agree with you, self care is one of those things everyone talks about and it sounds great on paper but in reality practicing is completely different. It takes dedication. Great post. Keep up the great work and I hope everything works out for the best!

  9. I’m just learning about Self-Care in the last couple of months, anxiety and depression can sometimes be confusing at times. Little things can trigger me and others just don’t understand.

    1. It’s hard when others can’t understand it which can bring another layer to our growth but that is why we have the baby steps to get us through it without them

  10. I LOVE this! Self care is what I’ve been working on too lately. It definitely is the little steps and making a routine of it!
    -Anna from SimplySagastume

  11. Sometimes we often forget how important it is to look after ourselves and put it as a last priority where we should be putting our self care first! This was a great post, it really gave me a lot to think about.

  12. This is so motivating! It is high time I apply the tips shared by you and start taking care of myself. We all deserve better than we have been subjected to.

  13. I love the last meme. Everyone’s self-care is different. Sometimes it’s different for you as well. One weekend you may want to just lie around being lazy, and one weekend you may want to pamper yourself. Love!